O Lord, my lips praise Your name, because Your timing is perfect and You know what’s best for us. I thank you for allowing me to witness glimpses of Your power through the life of my grandmother, who was surely a strong, courageous, and bold woman of prayer though she was physically so weak. I am reminded of her loud voice upon singing her favorite hymn “What a Friend We Have in Jesus”, as I silently played the piano and listened to the lyrics. Surely,
What a friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear! What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer! O what a peace we often forfeit, O what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.
Have we trials and temptations? Is there trouble anywhere? We should never be discouraged; take it to the Lord in prayer. Can we find a friend so faithful who will all our sorrows share? Jesus knows our every weakness; take it to the Lord in prayer.
Are we weak and heavy laden, cumbered with a load of care? Precious Savior, still our refuge; take it to the Lord in prayer. Do thy friends despise, forsake thee? Take it to the Lord in prayer! In his arms he’ll take and shield thee; thou wilt find a solace there.
Though she was poor in the eyes of this world, she called upon Your name and laid her burdens at Your feet, knowing that You alone are the greatest treasure, that You alone are worthy of all glory, honor, and praise, that You alone are trustworthy, sovereign, all-knowing, all-wise, all-powerful God. She stored treasures in heaven rather than here on this earth and hoped for what is unseen. How gracious and blessed we are to have a Savior like You, and how wonderful to think that we would soon and very soon see each other in heaven. How awesome it is that we are able to know that this is not our home, but that Your presence (You) are all that we need and should truly desire. Lord, help us, help us in our walks with You. Continue to remind us that You are so worth it. Shape our lens so that Your reality would only matter and be made more real in our lives—help us, help us, O God, and watch over Your people. May we cast everything, everything through prayer and recognize more and more of our utter helplessness so that we may pursue You even more. I thank You for all that You have done in my grandmother’s life and challenging my faith with the example that she has set by Your grace and mercy alone. How beautiful, wonderful, and mighty You are, O God. We bless Your name. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
My grandmother passed away around 4 pm today.
She was one of the strongest believers I knew, and although I will miss her terribly, I am comforted with the fact that she is praising God in heaven, and that I will see her again one day. Thank you Lord, for an amazing grandmother, and for the great things that she has done for Your glory. I love you grandma!
— Timothy Keller (via proverbs31v25)
— C.S. Lewis (via feellng)
— Matthew 16:24 (via thewordofgodsays)
Anonymous said: Hello! How would you explain the reasons we choose abstinence and not to have sex before marriage? I'm having a difficult time explaining it to friends at uni, which makes me realise I'm just going along with it without thinking about it for myself!
This is a great question for a couple of reasons. It’s good that you want to think for yourself and not just go along with what others are doing (good or bad). And it’s good that you want to base your decisions on reasoned convictions rather than on arbitrary rules.
Even among Christians, people tend to have different motives for choosing to save sex for marriage — so I’ll just tell you what mine were.
You’ve probably already heard the scare tactics, so I won’t go into a lot of detail here: Sex can give you STD’s, and sex can get you pregnant.
I wasn’t personally concerned about STD’s, because the girls I dated were as inexperienced as I was. But the possibility of pregnancy — that’s a scare tactic that worked on me.
Like everyone else, I heard in health class that pregnancy can happen when you’re sexually active. But over time I really saw what that can mean to a person’s life:
- One couple I knew got pregnant and, in their panic, had an abortion. They were both emotionally wrecked by their decision for a long time afterward.
- Another girl I knew chose to have her baby and gave it up for adoption. But she and her family were also emotional wrecks.
- A different girl had her baby and chose to raise it by herself. But she’s been struggling financially ever since.
- And another couple actually got married when they found out they were pregnant. But the dad had to drop out of school to support the family, and they’ve also struggled financially.
I’ve never heard of anyone who had their baby and regretted it. Babies are a blessing no matter what. But all of the people I just mentioned told me that they regretted the timing and wish they had been more careful or waited.
Pregnancy isn’t just an empty scare tactic; it’s a real possibility — even if you think you’re being careful. And it’s smart to avoid that possibility until you’re ready to be a parent.
So when my friends urged me to save sex for marriage, I chose to learn from their experiences.
Another big reason I chose to wait until marriage is that I understood what sex is for. Things typically work better for you when you use them as they are designed to be used. And sex is designed for marriage.
Sex is a natural desire, it’s a pleasurable experience and it’s a choice we make as individuals. But that isn’t all sex is.
Studies have even found that the most sexually satisfied people are those who experience sex in the context of “love and commitment” (aka marriage). And I can tell you as someone who waited, sex is pretty great when you’ve only known it with your spouse.
I wanted my relationship with my wife to be as unfettered as it could possibly be, so I waited. And I’m glad I did.
The last reason I waited for sex should be as profound as it is simple: The Bible tells me to. I can’t honestly call myself a Christian without committing to follow Jesus. He saved me, so He is the Lord of my life.
That means I don’t do what my friends, the media and society tells me I should. And I don’t even do what my will, my desires and my emotions tell me I should. I do what the Bible tells me I should.
- So when the Bible says that sex shouldn’t happen before I’m married, I wait until I’m married.
- When the Bible says that sex shouldn’t happen with anyone but my spouse, I only have sex with my spouse.
- And when the Bible says that sex is good for my marriage, I have better sex than I ever otherwise could have.
It’s not about following a rule because it’s a rule. It’s about following Jesus because I trust Him.
All this being said, if you’ve already had sex, all is not lost. Your marriage isn’t doomed, and your relationship with God isn’t shot. Jesus forgives us, and He restores us. But if you could avoid the heartbreak of having to overcome a big mistake, why wouldn’t you?
So those were my reasons for saving sex for marriage:
- I wasn’t willing to risk pregnancy before I was ready to be a parent.
- I wanted sex to be something special I only share with my wife.
- And I wanted to follow the God I trust.
Not everyone understood my choice to wait, and not everyone agreed with my reasons. But most at least respected it. And I didn’t need their approval to make my own choices anyway.
I hope that at least gives you a starting point. Thanks for the question.
Peace, love and Jesus,